Jia Tolentino's new collection of essays, Trick Mirror, detail what it means to
live the Millennial life. The insights kick in fast
in the book's opening essay, "The I in the
Internet," which asks how the medium
got so bad.
She notes Erving Goffman's 1959 theory
of identity, making what could read like
a master's thesis into a gripping tale
of how we became eternal performers -
how we are similar in job interviews to
how we constantly present what we think
of as our best selves on the Net
.
Offline, at least, there are "forms
of relief," in which the audience turns
over and the you at your job interview
is different from the you who meets up
with friends for a drink afterward and
is different again when you go home
to read yourself to sleep.
The Internet was one thing, Tolentino
argues, but social media is a whole other
level. People scroll through reams of
content, viewing "all new information
as a sort of direct commentary on
who they are." Further, there's a
constant pressure to expand one's
audience, unlike in real life
, when we don't seek more likes and more
followers and more hearts. Friends
don't go home from dinner parties
on the Internet. "The online
audience never has to leave."
And as Millennials lives have
gotten busier and busier, there
is less time to politically engage
and, besides, the Internet provides
a cheap substitute" for such actions.
Having an opinion online is often
seen as the end, rather than the
beginning, of something. The
Internet allows us to "seem"
politically engaged.
This means that opinions have needed to get
wilder and wilder. Gawker, Deadspin,
and Jezebel were outlets designed to
drive conflict. Upbeat ones like
BuzzFeed, Grantland, and Upworthy failed to take,.
The Internet "brings the I into
everything" because it can "make it
seem that supporting someone means
literally sharing in their experience."
Tolentino concludes that the Internet
will collapse at some point, but that
first we need to somehow start caring
less about our online identities, to
be "deeply skeptical of our own
unbearable opinions," to "be careful
in thinking about when our opposition serves
us," and to not always put
ourselves first.